No. This is not a suicide note. I love living.
But neither you nor I can guarantee that I will be here tomorrow. So, since I only have Today, don’t you think we should pause to reflect on the meaning of life?
We all agree with the concept that you should live each day as if it’s your last. Like you, however, in my heart I nurture the hope that I will be around when tomorrow comes around. But let’s face it, if I have any expectation whatsoever of that, then this is not really my last day!
So let’s face the reality. On the ‘today’ that right now we call ‘tomorrow’, people will say the usual… “He passed away yesterday! … She is no longer with us! …So sad for the family…She is in a better place.”
So, today, I will act like tomorrow does not exist. At least not for me.
Therefore, This is my last day on earth.
Makes you wonder what is really important. Doesn’t it?
Does it matter that the cell phone bill, or the cable bill, the car note, and the car insurance premium, the credit cards, the student loan, the mortgage, the rent, the energy bill, the city facilities bill, the business expenses or the taxes… may be past their payment due date?
But isn’t this what we are mostly concerned with?
Most working people spend their waking hours on tasks and thoughts related to money. Working to get some. Desiring to have more. Wishing we didn’t have to spend some. Rethinking some heart’s desire. Thinking how much happier we would be … if only we had more money.
If only… Regrets.
Do you really want to spend your last day regretting…thinking about money and the things it can bring?
Is there an amount of money that you would trade this day for? If God should tell you you can have any amount of money you want, or one more day to live, could you name an amount?
How about one billion dollars?
Hmm! So there are some things in your life (and mine) that are far more important than money! Right?
So, what are the things that, tomorrow when you are no longer here, you will be happy that you accomplished? Let’s think about it for just a minute.
Chances are, you may have never considered the question. Unless you have had some near death or traumatic experience. Who wants to think about death when you are so full of life?
Please humor me for just a moment. If tomorrow, you would have one regret, what would that be?
Fill in the blank: I would regret that I did not ____________________
That answer, my friend, tells you what is the most important matter in your life! It also indicates what MUST be on your list of things to DO TODAY.
I wager the billion dollars we talked about before that your answer above did not begin with the word ‘get’ or ‘have’. Because, for all of us, the most important thing in life… is never a ‘thing’.
The most important thing is Relationships.
Someone other than ‘myself’ who matters to your existence.
Someone who shares some of your life experience. Someone who cares for and about you.
Someone who is loved by you.
Relationship with that other individual- makes the difference that gives your life meaning.
What is ‘meaning’, really?
The most substantive answer comes from Christian Apologist Dr. Ravi Zacharias
He says the components of meaning are:
To briefly summarize: You begin with the discovery of the fantastic. The fairy tales that fill the eyes and heart of the young child with wonder. Then You grow older to find that, beyond the fantasies of the fairy tales, there are some things which are fantastically True.
You then learn that what makes all your relationships comfortable is a thing called Love. Then, you become exposed to a better world view. One that offers a perspective that not only makes sense of the world around you. But also through which you face the future ahead with hope and a great sense of Security.
Fulfilling these four needs produces meaning for any individual.
When someone you know dies, your most meaningful thought is of the last encounter you had with that person.
On this my last day, I must make sure that the people who matter most to me know that they matter to me. Tomorrow when they talk about me, they will remember that I expressed that to them.
Each of my two sons and my daughter (in law) receives a message that says ‘You are most special to me’.
- My immediate family members all receive a text message that proclaims, ‘You are important to me, I value my relationship with you. Including that family member whom I needed to forgive.
My best friend gets a note that says ‘Your friendship is the most precious gift of my life’.
- I reflect on the goodness in all my acquaintance relationships.
Having done that, I can say I have no (major) regrets. And I did not spend a single dollar!
Leadership expert John Maxwell in his book, Today Matters, says that one mark of the successful is certain specific good habits that are an integral part of each day of their lives. These are things that go to fulfill your goals and dreams. That feed your passions. That fit your plans. Things that are, in fact, your determined priorities.
And when you have completed Priority #1, John advises, your next move is not to #2 on your to-do list. No.
You move to your New #1.
A successful [last] day of your life always has Priority #1 checked off.
What things are on your today list? What do you want us to remember?
Along with things that could go over to a tomorrow list, what is that one essential?
Please share your opinion in the comments below.
Why is it essential that you share? The relationship you build here may be the only thoughts of you the rest of us will have to hold on to.
From this last day.